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First Trimester of Pregnancy- What to Expect

May 14, 2021 by firstcomesfamily Leave a Comment

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I can’t believe I’m already updating you on my First Trimester of my second pregnancy! Time is already flying and thank goodness because the first trimester is ROUGH with a toddler, let me tell you. I feel bad ever complaining with my first pregnancy. Most of this pregnancy is sooo similar to my last and it’s crazy, which means it has to be another girl. So here we go with the most asked questions about the first 14 weeks of my pregnancy!

How did you find out that you’re pregnant?

We were actively trying so I had been tracking my ovulation in the Glow App and I hadn’t been on any form of birth control since before we had our last baby. My cycles were super normal so made tracking pretty easy. I actually had spotting 5 days before my missed period and had read about implantation bleeding several times in a mom group. I didn’t worry too much because it was very light and did not continue past one wipe. (If you are concerned, certainly consult your OB). I waited until the day that I was supposed to get my period and took a Stix Pregnancy Test.

This is actually a still from the video we set up while we looked at the test together! Lee is holding the test in his hand.

Did you do a surprise reveal to your husband that you were pregnant?

If you’re new here, I found out I was pregnant while Lee was out of town so I was able to surprise him! You can see how I surprised him HERE. But no we decided to look at the test together and share the moment! We were so eager so I don’t think I could’ve even kept it from him regardless. We were both shocked as we expecting it to take longer to conceive this time around. It’s actually funny because when he looked at the test, he said “What does that mean?” We both laughed then realized we were going to have ANOTHER baby!

Were you TTC (trying to conceive)?

Yes! We knew we wanted another child and a sibling for Vivian. Lee grew up with 3 siblings and I was an only child. We also knew that we wanted them to be closer in age so that they would have similar friends and interests. As Vivian’s second birthday was approaching, we decided to try!

Do you want a girl or boy?

We are perfectly happy with either! I always wanted a little sister so it would be cool to give that to her but Lee definitely is partial to a boy (what Dad isn’t).

What have your symptoms been like?

My symptoms are SO similar to my first pregnancy. I had all day nausea Week 6-9 and could only eat whatever sounded good in that exact moment (usually ginger ale and carbs). We ate out a lot those weeks LOL On top of the nausea was extreme exhaustion. Wow I did not realize being pregnant with a toddler would be so tiring. I spent lots of days on the couch…thank goodness for Disney+! Once Week 9 ended, the symptoms got sooo much better and I got that second wind!

What are your holy grail first trimester items?

Oooooo so many things! But here are my top 4:

–Pink Stork Morning Sickness Hard Lozenges: They have ginger and B6 in them which are a natural nausea relief.

-Chickfila Lemonade: Guys, I won’t lie, I had one every day. The sourness of lemonade helps soo much!

-Oranges: We always keep mandarins in the house but I was steadily eating like of these a day to curb nausea.

–Tula Purifying Cleanser: I was previously using a cleanser with salicylic acid in it which they say to avoid when pregnant. I switched to Tula’s Purifying Cleanser and I LOVE it. Make you feel so clean.

Was your husband able to come to the first appointment with you?

He did… but they don’t allow children in currently so he had to sit in the car. We were SO sad about this. Thankfully we were able to FaceTime so he could see the sonogram (my OB does them at 8 weeks).

We truly cannot thank everyone enough for the love and support that we have received since announcing we were pregnant! It’s truly such an incredible experience and such a miracle. I’m so excited to share every step of my second pregnancy with all of you!

How to throw the BEST Moana Birthday Party

May 14, 2021 by firstcomesfamily Leave a Comment

Our little girl turned 2 last week so we decided to throw her a Moana Birthday Party! If you are a toddler mom or just a Disney lover, then you know what the Moana movie is! Moana is a movie set to fulfill her ancestors quest and discovers her own identity along the way. Since it’s based in a tropical setting we went with a luau/Moana mixed theme.

Table Set Up

I used this green leaves background that set up so easily with no creases and I plan to reuse it for future parties. No table set up is complete without a balloon arch. I think balloon arches are pretty simple and this is my second one making! I purchased the balloon arch kit on Amazon HERE and blew it up with a bicycle pump. They do make convenient balloon pumps like THIS that are even easier to use and worth it if you have to celebrate birthdays several times a year. The Moana cut-out (they also have a Maui one) was a request from hubs and I’m so glad we go it because our girl was SO excited to see it. Finally, to help hide under the table, I used this grass skirt that velcro-ed around the table perimeter which actually can be used again.

Moana Style Food

We had the party 10 am to 1 pm (since it was a toddler’s party) and offered light brunch bites. Here’s a list of the light bites that we had:

Te Fiti Fruit Salad– You can’t ever pass up fruit salad at any brunch/lunch to help even out the sweets!

Hei Hei Chicken Nuggets– We ordered these from Chickfila because DUH they’re the best but you can easily get the frozen ones and pop them in the oven!

Island Donuts– Pineapple’s are 100% Moana but it went with a tropical vibe. We ordered glaze and sugared donuts from my favorite local bakery then popped these toppers in them!

Grandma’s Goldfish– A party filled with toddlers…what toddler doesn’t love goldfish?!

Maui’s Mimosas– We had a pitcher of mimosas for the mamas who wanted to partake in brunch!

Heart of Te Fiti Cupcakes– I followed this tutorial and made them myself! I’m so happy with how they came out.

Kakamora Party Favor Bags

How could I not incorporate the ever famous evil little kakamora coconuts?! I used small brown party bags from Target but you could easily use brown luck bags as well (can be found at the Dollar Store). I then used this printout and cut it out to fit the bags. I used hot glue to stick them on to each bag! Ta-Da!

No party favor bag is complete without the BEST fillers! Since all kiddo guests were under 3, I went with toddler friendly items:

–Playdough– The small ones make for the perfect favor!

-Kids Sunglasses- I grabbed mine in the dollar spot at Target but you could also snag them on Amazon HERE.

-Applesauce Pouches- Easy snack for kiddos to have on the way home after the party!

–Stickers– What kid doesn’t love stickers? I used these and just cut the sheets in half.

–Bubbles– Another crowd winner and I can honestly say we can never have enough bubbles.

Kids Activities

To be honest, we didn’t have any fun games for the kids other than our toddler sized bounce house which kept them busy for a whole 3 hours! But here are some Moana themed party games that would be great:

–Bean Bag Toss

–Pin the Glasses on Hei Hei

Moana Costume

We can’t have a Moana themed party without Moana! I got Vivian this Moana costume that was so comfortable for her and SO cute! Also, if you order this one, size up! You could even grab this Maui costume if your party is for a little boy! Lee and I also wore somewhat coordinating outfits within the theme. I saw this “Just an Ordinary Demi-Dad” shirt on Easy and couldn’t pass it up! Thinking he may even wear it to Disney later this year. As for my skirt, I pulled it up so it was more of a midi skirt and it was under $12! You can get that HERE.

Our daughter’s Moana themed 2nd Birthday Party was a hit and everyone loved it! It was extra special to see her light up with all of the Moana decor up. I also loved how you could put a luau spin on it to make it more for for the adults and even ones without kiddos!

Valentine’s Day Sensory Bin- Sensory Rice

January 28, 2021 by firstcomesfamily Leave a Comment

We are tickled pink for all things Valentine’s Day lately! I made my own sensory rice for a Valentine’s themed sensory bin! Sensory bins are great for inhibiting cognitive development and fine motor skills. Vivian loved it and loved throwing the rice all over even more. It’s really awesome to see her mind working as she was playing with the rice.

What You Need:

-2.5 cups of Rice per color (any kind works, white rice is best)

-Food Coloring (10 drops per 2.5 cups of rice)

-1 tsp vinegar or rubbing alcohol per color

-Gallon Sized Ziploc bags

-Cookie Sheet

-Paper Towels

-Large container or Bin

Directions:

Place 2.5 cups of rice into a gallon Ziploc bag. You can do as many colors as you’d like.
Squirt 5-10 drops of food coloring in each bag. More drops = richer the color.
Pour 1 teaspoon of rubbing alcohol or vinegar into the baggie. Rubbing alcohol tends to dry quicker.
Zip bag and shake it up!
Line a baking sheet with paper towels. Place the rice on paper towels and let dry. It should only take 15 minutes if placed in the sun.
Put the dry rice into a bin (I used a large Tupperware container). Add any random object for pouring or playing in the bin!

*I totally recommend placing this on a sheet or doing this outside because the rice gets EVERYWHERE. You could also buy a cheap small inflatable pool to place it in!

Enjoy your Valentine Sensory Bin! Tag me on Instagram if you try it @firstcomesfamily.mama !

Walmart Pre-Black Friday Sales 2020

November 16, 2020 by firstcomesfamily Leave a Comment

These sales are going on as of 11/16/2020!! Rounding up my favorite deals from Walmart, like the Revlon One-Step Hair Dryer & Volumizer Hot Air Brush and Cast Iron 6.5 Quart Round Dutch Oven. All you have to do is click the item you want and it’ll take you directly to it!

Target Pre-Black Friday Sales 11/16

November 16, 2020 by firstcomesfamily Leave a Comment

Some of the best Target sales that are happening now, even before Black Friday 2020! Just click on the image of the item and it’ll take you right to it!

How I Weaned my Toddler from Breastfeeding

September 25, 2020 by firstcomesfamily Leave a Comment

After 16 long months of breastfeeding, my toddler is officially weaned! It was a process that took about 4 months to do. I was dead set on weaning her the day after her first birthday but it didn’t quite go as planned. We were dead in the middle of quarantine and a global pandemic. Therefore, I kept breastfeeding because breastmilk contains antibodies that help fight infections in your baby. When my girl was 13 months old, our house came down with COVID-19 (thankfully Vivian never shows symptoms) so our journey wasn’t close to being done. But once we were clear of COVID-19, I decided it was time to wean!

Adding a Lovey

Vivian never became attached to anything. I tried everything: pacifier, blankets, stuffed animals, NOTHING… So I gave up trying until I realize that she used my boob as comfort. When she was upset, she wouldn’t come down until I fed her and even then she just used me as a paci. Lots of moms raved about Slumberkins so I took the plunge and ordered one with hopes she’d use this as her comfort. I started with putting it between us during a few feeds so she would get used to it. Then I’d put it into her crib when she went to bed (although AAP suggests an empty crib, we do what is best for our family and deem safe). Now she grabs her Unicorn Slumberkin when it’s time for nap or bed.

Minimize Feeds

This was the hardest! Vivian fed 6-10 times a day up until she was 15 months old. Every morning and night feeding was a given. Our routine was always to wake up and go to the couch and she’d feed for 20+ minutes. What I did was start to wean the daytime feeds first. I noticed she fed more when we were just sitting at home. When she’d come for a feed, I’d steer her direction to a toy or give her a snack instead. This actually worked pretty well! Eventually we were down to 2-3 feeds a day which was huge.

Replacing with Cow Milk

I tried transitioning Vivian to cow’s milk directly at 1 year but she didn’t care for it so I gave up until 16 months. Milk is naturally thicker and creamer than breastmilk which is a bit more watery. So I started with Horizon Organic Whole Milk with DHA Omega-3 mixed with water and warmed up (she won’t drink it cold). She liked this way more than just straight milk! As the days have gone on, I put less water in to eventually make it complete milk. I offer 10 ounces of milk as soon as she wakes up and at bedtime. She will only use the Munchkin Weight Straw Cup for her milk which also are great because they don’t leak!

Cutting Bedtime Feeds

Since we barely ever used bottles and I was able to stay home with her, I was always the one her put Vivian to bed. TakingCaraBabies helped me set a healthy sleep routine before we even decided to wean. I hadn’t breastfed her to sleep since she was like 6 months old. So she only ever fed for about 5 minutes during bedtime routine. This part was pretty easy because the first night that I offered her milk at bedtime, she didn’t even go for the boob so I just ran with that. If she tried then I would just encourage her milk in the cup and read more books.

Middle of the Night Feeds

Our bad habit was middle of the night feeds. These were always the hardest because she was inconsolable she if woke up in the night so I’d just feed her for a few minutes so we could go back to bed. I was concerned for this part. A few days into our wean, she woke up in the night and went straight to breastfeed. I refused her request and just held her and rocked her in the chair to show that I can still be used for comfort but breastfeeding isn’t what we do anymore. She’s been fine since!

Breastfeeding Anxiety

I knew I was ready to wean from breastfeeding when I would get extreme anxiety every time she wanted to feed. She basically did gymnastics while feeding and would insist on playing with my nipple.. I HATED it. I was so uncomfortable and had the worst anxiety. So I was ready to call it quits on my end.

Drying Up

Thankfully, I didn’t have an issue with this. I truthfully never experienced latch issues, clogged ducts or mastitis. I was always a “just-enougher” so I was never an over producer and didn’t had a huge freezer stash of breastmilk. But, I’ve heard that putting cabbage leaves in your bra help dry up your milk! My sister in law swears by it as well as her friends.

I am beyond thankful for out 16 month long breastfeeding journey. My goal initially was one year and I can’t believe I surpassed it! Every breastfeeding journey is so different so don’t be discouraged if yours isn’t what you read here or what you see on social media. Also, every baby will wean when they’re ready BUT if you feel your mental health is taking more of a toll then do what is best for you and baby! Being the best mom doesn’t always mean breastfeeding while you feel uncomfortable.

DIY Cake Smash Photos

September 24, 2020 by firstcomesfamily Leave a Comment

Since before I was pregnant, I knew that I wanted cute photos of our baby girl smashing a cake with a boho background. But, then a pandemic happened. Spoiler alert: There is no cake because I forgot it inside. LOL I was determined to capture special photos of our baby girl on her first birthday. With the help of Pinterest and my Hubby’s help, my dreams came true!

The Setting

The lighting in our house isn’t the best AT ALL. So I figured doing them outside is best because our back patio is perfectly shaded after 4 pm. If you are doing them inside, I recommend doing them in the area of your home that is the best lighted (near a big window or door). Morning light (soft yet bright) and evening light (before sunset) is the best lighting so adjust accordingly.

I also tried to use white banner paper because I read a tutorial that used it and well it sucked lol. SO I’d recommend a flat bed sheet of whatever color you’d like. We chose white!

To add the perfect minimal pop of decor, I made a eucalyptus garland and followed this tutorial. It came out so cute and is actually hanging in our guest room now! I ordered my eucalyptus here and trimmed it accordingly.

The Outfit

We were gifted

A Busy Mom’s Review of Little Spoon Plates

September 9, 2020 by firstcomesfamily Leave a Comment

Are you over making your toddler 388374 meals a day? Because I am! Thankfully, Little Spoons Plates has solved that problem. Little Spoons Plates is a prepared meal delivery service for kids ages 1-7. Each meal is packed with hidden veggies to help get your little ones the nutrients they need (especially ours because she despises veggies). All meals contain no hormones, no preservatives or additives, and nothing artificial which is important to me to know what Vivian is eating. We had the chance the give the Plates a try and I just wouldn’t wait to share them with y’all!

GREAT FOR AGES 1-7

Sometimes, coming up with meals for your kiddos can be overwhelming. Little Spoon Plates takes the stress out of meal time. They offer Toddler meals that are perfect as finger foods as well as Big Kid meals for the most advanced utensil users.

VAST MEAL SELECTION

The menu has a wide variety of choices for even the pickiest of kiddos. There is over 20 options to choose from that rotates weekly. Some of Vivian’s favorites were the Mac and Cheese with Invisible Butternut Squash and Carrots as well as the Cheese Black Bean Pupusas! They even offer dairy free, gluten free, and vegetarian meals to fit into family’s lifestyle.

CLEAN INGREDIENTS

What’s most important to me when choosing new foods for Vivian is that it contains ingredients I can find in my very own pantry. Each Plate contains real ingredients and none of bad chemicals and preservatives you find in most prepared meals. Little Spoon believes that quality and nutrition should go hand in hand and I can truly attest to that!

SO CONVENIENT

Each meal comes on a microwave safe, dishwasher safe and recyclable plate covered with their innovative Freshlock seal on each plate, allowing the meals to stay fresh for longer. They come in the mail packed with ice packs and an eco-friendly isolated liner which ensures your meals are cold until they go into your fridge! A really cool add is that the meals are best enjoyed up to 14 days in the refrigerator or 2 months in the freezer! This makes them SO easy to pop into the microwave for a meal on the fly.

AFFORDABLE

Grocery shopping for kids can be expensive and there’s a big chance they won’t even eat what you prepare, unfortunately we’ve all been there. Plates pricing starts out at under $5 per meal and the conveniences itself is worth a ton! You simply order on Little Spoon’s website for weekly delivery and can even choose what meals you get. The best part is that you can skip delivery if you happen to be out of town or have Grandma in town to cook instead. LOL

As a family, we’ve done the adult meal delivery services and think they’re great. Since Little Spoon has launched Plates, it’s been a GAME CHANGER for us and makes me feel great that my girl is getting quality and nutritive food!

You can try Little Spoon Plates delivery HERE!

How I made my first $200 while blogging

September 7, 2020 by firstcomesfamily Leave a Comment

Welcome to my very first Income Report! I have been reading other bloggers income reports for years now and I can finally post one of my own. *cue excitement* Blogging takes A LOT of work and dedication in order to see a return on investment. It’s not a get rich quick scheme, you truly need to be passionate because who wants to read a blog post poorly written about something the writer could care less about!? So let’s get the show on the road.

I’ll start by giving you some background about First Comes Family. It is entirely ran by myself, Shieann. That’s it! I have created my website by myself, manage my social media by myself, and write each blog post all by myself. I currently would say I only do it part-time (about 10 hours a week) while I stay home with my toddler and manage my macrame Etsy shop. Back in January, I started to treat the blog like a business and began putting myself out there more (joining affiliate networks, pitching to brands for collars) and it is truly paying off.

Goals for September:

-Land another Sponsored Post

-Work on Pinterest growth to help with site views

Sooooo…. here it is!

August 2020 Revenue:

Review of 3 Different Sleep Courses

August 28, 2020 by firstcomesfamily Leave a Comment

If you’re reading this, I’m sure you’re on your third cup of coffee and slept a total like less than 4 hours last night. How do I know that? Because I was in those exact shoes, girl. I remember hearing “Oh the newborn phase is the best, all they do is sleep” LOL Literally all I could do was laugh when I was told that because it certainly did not feel that way. The first month of our girl’s life was a blur, filled with sleeping for 30 minute increments…but it got better.

Sleep training was something I had no clue about until I found myself Googling “How to get your newborn to sleep”. That’s when I stumbled upon several sleep consultants who claim they can get your baby to sleep through the night. SOLD. Well, three different sleep consultants later…here I am sharing what I loved and didn’t love about each one.

first one up is…

The Baby Sleep Trainer

This was a recommendation from another mama who had success with it. I actually purchased The Baby Sleep Trainer book (you can grab it HERE) and read through it in a few days. We started our sleep training journey with this method at 4 months old when we placed her in her own crib. We had a lot of success getting Vivian adjusted to a sleep schedule and used to her own room.

My Sweet Sleeper

I actually won the “Guide to a better night’s sleep for babies 4-12 months” which I’d say is an intro to their 4-12 month sleep course. This was great for someone who didn’t know anything about sleep training! Unfortunately, I am an expert researcher and it was filled with things I already found during my midnight google searches. I can’t speak how their courses are but I do see they have group training which could be a more affordable option for a mama.

our winner…

Taking Cara Babies

I came across Taking Cara Babies on Instagram while while I was pregnant and loved following them. They share SUPER good tips on their posts about everything from feeding to traveling with kids. I took two course: Navigating 3-4 Months and ABC’s of Sleep (5-24 months). *Going to tell you right now that Navigating 3-4 Months wasn’t worth the money*…just fight through that 4 month sleep regression. BUT the ABC’s of Sleep was SOO worth it! I mean it was magic, Vivian only “trained” for one night… ONE NIGHT. She’s remained a good sleeper since we took the class at 10 months old. It is a bit of an investment but sleep is priceless in my opinion.

So the clear winner was Taking Cara Babies for us. I’m not sure if it’s because we implemented the techniques when she was a little older or because it’s truly magic. Either way, I’d much rather purchase a Taking Cara Babies course with our next babe.

So if you haven’t already, take a look at each sleep consultant and see which is the best fit for you. I know you’re desperate for sleep at this point but also don’t forget that they’re little babies and aren’t fully developed to understand sleep cycles like us. Give your little babe some grace, sleep will come mama.

Have you done any sleep courses?! Which one?